Several weeks ago, two of my good friends asked to set up a time to meet with me. There was a tone in their text that made me immediately think something was ‘up.’ And my hunch was right. When we got together, they basically were having an intervention with me. I cannot even express how touched I was with their love and honesty. It takes a special and courageous kind of friend that’s willing to speak authentically, with tremendous love and support. I have the BEST friends!
What they wanted to speak with me about was getting me ‘out there,’ dating, and being more open to welcoming love into my life. And the way they wanted to support me was to take me shopping. They wanted to update my image.
It’s now been 3 years since I found it necessary to complete my marriage. At first I needed time to catch my breath, lick my wounds. It also coincided with my stepfather’s extended illness and death. So I really did need some time to recover. I also knew I did not want to stay in Dallas, so I didn’t want any ‘excuse’ that would keep me there. So dating had not been an option.
Then I moved to southern California a year ago, where I feel so at home and happy.
But my friends felt I was a bit stuck. And, of course, I was totally unaware of this.
The conversation between the three of us was rich. Their questions they asked had me find a place in me, a vulnerable place, that had been hiding out and keeping love away. It was a complete blind spot. And, when we finished, I was aware something had shifted. I felt more relaxed and at peace.
Then, a couple of days later, they took me shopping. It was the first time I had ever gone to Marshall’s and now I’m a big fan. The two of them were in charge, and I watched in amazement how they were filling up their two shopping carts. We found a large dressing room, and my speed shopping experience begun.
They were putting clothes on me that I NEVER had worn before. I was amazed at how different I looked. They even took pictures of the outfit I wore into the store, and showed me the difference in how I looked in the clothes they were dressing me in. There were a lot of giggles, a couple of screams from my friends, and even a few tears.
The whole experience was transformational.
By the way, I failed to mention, that several months ago, my weight began shifting, so my body was fuller than normal. Turns out, in part, my hormones had gone a little wonky, but I also now know it was that vulnerable place within me that was contributing to this extra layer of protection my body had created.
Now, my intervention all took place while I was presenting at CEO Space, a business growth organization. So when we finished, they came back with me to my hotel room, picked out what I was to wear, dressed me and followed me back into the conference. And, I must admit, the comments I received were pretty amazing.
The comments and attention took a bit of adjusting, since I had previously lived in a comfortable place of energetically hiding out. However, I knew I needed to allow the REAL ME to continue to emerge.
AND I want to be very clear: It was NOT the new clothes that made the difference. Yes, it allowed me the opportunity to reveal myself authentically. However, the real transformation came about through opening up myself and allowing my WHOLE self to be present. The clothes were simply the icing on the cake!
And here is where it got even more interesting.
I had also been ‘encouraged’ to put myself on an online dating site. I had done that a few months before, but put very little energy into it, and had no dates.
I get back from my conference and suddenly there are a few men reaching out to me. This is the evidence that when YOU shift, when the ENERGY that is interfering with who you are, what you desire, is removed….there is truly an opening for you to receive all the good God is attempting to send your way.
I had not done ONE thing on this dating site for WEEKS.
I have now had dates, all with very high quality men. And there was one man, who had reached out to me when I first got online, but by the time I responded to him, his profile was no longer available. However, HE miraculously showed up again right after I got back, reached out to me one more time. This time I responded. And we have now gone out and he is someone I’m interested in.
But the MAIN point I want to make is that we all have BLIND SPOTS with how we may be hiding out and not even know that it exists. That’s why they are called blind spots!
I recently worked with someone who spent a day with me and attracted the love of their life in two weeks! I think that’s pretty cool!
Time and time again, I see the magic unfold with the women I work with. Suddenly they have shifts, experiencing their deepest desires in a relatively short period of time. And, interestingly enough, attracting the love of their life is one of the most common results. The married women also experience improved shifts in the quality of connection and intimacy with their husbands. (Actually all areas of their lives improve, both personally and professionally).
Even though I love helping women love who they are in their bodies, and transform their bodies and their lives, my sweet spot is helping women welcoming love into their lives and have extraordinary relationships.
TOO MANY women suffer from poor body image. It’s where your insecurities tend to land. It’s where you self-criticism is directed. It’s how you diminish your worth and punish yourself.
And it simply has to stop.
Although I use my own process on myself, it was because of my friends that my life has taken a most positive turn. We all need others to help us move forward. And now I want to offer the same opportunity for you.
HOW MIGHT THE RELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE WITH YOUR BODY BE HOLDING YOU BACK AND GETTING IN THE WAY OF YOUR LOVE LIFE? YOU may have hidden blind spots, keeping you from experiencing all your deepest desires. And it doesn’t have to be that way!
Want to reach out and have a discussion with how I can assist YOU?
Or, at the very least, please join me next Wednesday for my free teleseminar.
PLEASE don’t let the relationship with your body create any more suffering…and even worse, hold you back from all the love and happiness you deserve !
Enjoy!
